Why We Don’t Pray When We’re On Our Period – A Reflection on Allah’s Attributes As The Merciful and The Creator

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I came across the post below on Buruj Lan-dan’s page on why we as Muslim women don’t pray when we’re on our monthly periods, and it’s a topic that’s been on my mind for a while so I wanted to share it with you adding my own reflections at the end.

Why don’t we pray when we are on our monthly cycles?

A dear friend of mine explained it to me and it blew me away. May Allah protect her always.

There is not a deed as great as the prayer. And no one is excused from it under any circumstances. Even men in battles are commanded to pray in whatever way they can.

But the only time a servant of Allah is entirely excused from praying and from even making up the missed prayers is when as a woman you suffer from all the difficulties that come with menstruation.

I love how my friend worded the wisdom behind it.

“Allah has mercy on you because He knows no one around you will”

Your boss doesn’t care if you come late to work because you were suffering from cramps in the morning. Your children don’t demand any less on those days of weakness and tiredness. Your husband doesn’t have any more patience with your mood swings when sadness or anger overwhelms you for no reason. When you step out, nobody knows how much your body either aches or how much your mind is distracted by incessant thoughts. You are on your own.

So, Allah the Most Merciful, Ar-Raheem, Ar Rahman, removes His obligation on you because no one else will.

We could’ve been commanded to make them up – if the reason was purely Taharah (purity) but we weren’t. He gives us a break when no one will.

The other time a woman is excused is when she has given birth. Her body, her mind labours to bring another life into the world and becomes occupied with taking care of it – and again Allah excuses her.

This is what makes me fall in love with Allah and Islam even more. For only Allah could know the intricate details of our struggle and give us what we need the most – mercy. – From Buruj Lan-Dan’s Facebook Page

My Reflection

It’s common for us to jokingly refer to our periods as holidays because we’re absolved from the responsibility of praying. After a few days however the effect quickly wanes and we find ourselves craving the doses of serenity that we get through prayer. One of the focal benefits of Salah is that it forces us to remember Allah SWT hence being away from it can sometimes make us feel like we’re no longer in that state.

Whenever I’m on my period, I’m reminded of the ayah below:

“We will show them Our Signs in the universe, and in their own selves until it becomes manifest to them that this (the Quran) is the truth” [Fussilat 41:53]

On the earth are Signs for those of assured Faith; as also in your own selves: will yet not then see?” [Al-Dhariyat 51:20 – 21]

In fact, my periods are a time when I am heavily conscious of Allah. Marvelling at the creation of my body and how perfectly it functions. Especially on months when I go through heavy periods, and I’m continually amazed at the way my body self-regulates. (No kidding, some days I feel like I’m gonna bleed out!) There are different ways in our lives that Allah reminds us that is Al-Khaliq, The Creator, and for me, my menstrual cycles are a special reminder of the one who has created me and created me in the best of forms.

I mean think about it, having regular menstrual cycles is a sign that the body is functioning normally, so remember to thank Allah for your health and the numerous blessings that he has given you through your body.

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True Appreciation of Ramadhān



My honourable father rahimahullāh would eagerly anticipate the arrival of Ramadhān and express immense happiness upon its commencement.  You could tell from his behaviour that it was the month of Ramaḍān; he would talk very little and be constantly engaged in good deeds. He would value every moment. The atmosphere at home was like i‘tikāf throughout the month of Ramadhān. When the blessed month would end he would shed tears of sorrow. All this was because he had understood the value of Ramaḍān. We should follow this example to truly value each and every moment of Ramadhān.

Valuing Ramadhān
The month of Ramadhān is a month of blessings, mercy and forgiveness. If we fail to utilise it correctly, it will pass without us realising what valuable and precious moments we have wasted. What has passed cannot return, and what is lost cannot be re-acquired. Rasūlullāh sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam has said:

This is a month, the first (10 days) of which is mercy, the middle (10 days) of which is forgiveness and the last (10 days) of which is deliverance from the Fire of Jahannam. (Al Bayhaqī)

From the first of Ramadhān, the Mercy of Allāh ta’ālā descends upon those very pious servants who have no sins in their book of deeds.
As far as the sinners are concerned, they are of two types: sinners of a lesser degree, and those who are so engrossed in sin that were they to die in their present condition they would go straight into the Fire of Jahannam.
The sins of the first category of sinners are forgiven after their striving during the first 10 days of Ramadhān. As for the sinners of the second category upon whom Jahannam is incumbent, after striving for 20 days, Allāh ta’ālā’s forgiveness enshrouds them and they too are granted deliverance from the Fire of Jahannam. How merciful is Allāh ta’ālā!
We ask Allāh ta’ālā that He grant us Jannah-al-Firdaws with His eternal Pleasure and save us from the Fire of Jahannam. Āmīn.

Counting Days
We should spend the month of Ramadhān with enthusiasm.
Unfortunately, many people regard it as a burden, and eagerly count down the days for it to finish.

Our pious predecessors used to feel grief and sadness at the passing of each day of Ramadhān, whereas we feel a burden is being lifted with each day that goes by. They would say in sorrow: “Only 15 days left now, Only 14 days left now…” while we say the same out of relief.

Another Year… Another Eid. . .

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“If the hearts of the Muslims pronounced the takbir as much as their tongues do on ‘Eid, then the face of history would have changed.

If they always gathered as much as they do for Salat ul-‘Eid, then they would have defeated the enemy legions.

If their souls embraced as much as their hands shake one another, then they would have been able to deal with their differences.

If their souls smiled as much as their lips do, then they would have been with the people of the heavens.
If they sacrificed their ego and selfishness as much as they sacrificed their animals, then all of their days would have been ‘Eid.

And if they had worn the garments of good character like they wear the best of clothes, then they would have been the most beautiful nation on the face of this earth.”
(Dr. Mustafa as-Siba’i)

“Taqabbalallahu minna wa minkum.”
“May Allah accept it from you and us”

May Allah allow all those who suffer in this life for the sake of Allah to enjoy the company of His Messenger (sall Allaahu’alayhi wa sallam)  in the highest level of Jannah, where every day will be an Eid In Sha Allah.

🌹🌹عیدکم مبارک🌹🌹
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ لَبِسَ الْجَدِیْدِ
اِنَّمَا الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ خَافَ بِالْوَعِیْدِ
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ تَبَخَّرَ بِالْعُوْدِ
اِنَّمَا الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ تَابَ وَلَا یَعُوْد
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ نَصَبَ الْقُدُوْرَ
اِنَّمَا الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ سَعَدَ بِالْمَقْدُوْرِ
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ تَزَیَّنَ بِزِیْنَةِ الدُّنْیَا
اِنَّمَا الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ تَزَوَّدَ بِزَادِ التَّقْوی
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ رَکِبَ الْمَطَایَا
اِنَّمَا الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ تَرَکَ الْخَطَایا.
لَیْسَ الْعِیْدُ لِمَنْ بَسَطَ الْبَسَاطَ
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