Learn to let go…!

I begin in the Name of Allah,

“And We place the scales of justice for the Day of Resurrection, so no soul will be treated unjustly at all. And if there is [even] the weight of a mustard seed, We will bring it forth. And sufficient are We as accountant.” (21:47)

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If someone is earning Haram or committing fraud, leave them to Allah.

If someone is arrogant and narcissistic, leave them to Allah.

If someone is doing the work of Deen for name and fame, leave them to Allah.

If someone is always arguing, overconfident and conceited, leave them to Allah.

If someone is spreading lies about you, backbiting and slandering, leave them to Allah.

If someone is cheating on you, having an affair and lying to you, leave them to Allah.

If someone is oppressing you, bullying you or harassing you, leave them to Allah.

If someone does not pray and fast, don’t think you are better, just leave them to Allah.

If someone violated your rights and took even a shilling from you, leave them to Allah.

If someone disagrees with you, whether in religious or worldy matters, end the conversation, leave them to Allah.

If someone treats you unfairly, is biased and prejudiced, or shows favouritism, also leave them to Allah.

“So whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it,  and whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.” (99:7 & 8)

This article was written after being inspired by a poem of the Late Mother Theresa:

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

~Mother Teresa”

Ismail Ibn Nazir Satia (One who is in dire need of Allah’s Forgiveness, Mercy and Pleasure)

1 Rajab 1437

Are you Following The Crowd?

SHEEP GETS BUCKET STUCK ON HEAD

When Umar bin al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) was walking in the market, he passed by a man who was supplicating,

اللهم اجعلني من القليل    اللهم اجعلني من القليل
“O Allah, make me from the few! O Allah make me from the few!”

So ‘Umar said to him, “Where did you get this du`a’ (supplication) from?” And the man said, “Allah in His Book says:
و قليل من عبادي الشكور
‘And few of My servants are grateful.’ (Qur’an 34:13)”

So ‘Umar wept and admonished himself, “The people are more knowledgeable than you, O Umar!
O Allah make us from Your ‘few’ servants.”
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Sometimes when you advise someone to leave a sin, they respond with “But everybody does it, it’s not just me!”

But if you look for the words “most people” in the Qur’an, you will find that most people –

ولكن اكثرهم لا يعلمون
“And however most people do not know” (7:187)

ولكن أكثرهم لا يشكرون
– “and most people do not show gratitude” (2:243)

and
و لكن اكثر الناس لا يؤمنون
– “and most people do not believe” (11:17).

And if you look for “most of them”, you will find that most of them are

و آن أكثرهم فَاسِقُون
– “definitely disobedient” (5:59)

و لكن أكثرهم يجهلون
– “ ignorant” (6:111)

بل أكثرهم لا يعلمون الحق فهم معرضون
– “turning away” (21:24)

So be of the “few”, whom Allah says about them:

و قليل من عبادي الشكور
– “And few of My servants are grateful.” (34:13)

و ما امن معه الا قليل
– “But none had believed with him, except a few.” (11:40)

في جنات النعيم ثلة من الاولين و قليل من الآخرين
– “In the Gardens of Bliss, A [large] company of the former peoples, And a few of the later peoples.” (56:12-14)

Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله) said, “Go on the path of truth and do not feel lonely because there are few who take that path, and beware of the path of falsehood and do not be deceived by the vastness of the perishers.”
[Found in Kitab al-Zuhd by Ahmad bin Hanbal (رحمه الله), and also in the Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shaybah.] –

May Allah Ta’ala make us of His few servants, Ameen.

Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله) : “No servant is struck with a greater punishment than the punishment of a hard heart and distance from Allāh”

● [الفوائد ١٤٢]

1 Rajab 1437

Sunday Morning Thoughts!

In the name of Allah, the entirely Merciful, the especially Merciful.

Time Bomb

Dear Mankind,

For how much longer will you blame the world?

For how much longer will you see the faults in others, but not in yourself?

For how much longer you will continue in your Arrogance and Denial?

For how much longer will you think yourself better than others and ignore your Narcissism?

For much how longer will you continue with your uncontrolled Anger and Impatience? Have you forgotten Allah’s Wrath and Anger are far, far, FAR worse!

For how much longer will you be ungrateful and show ingratitude to your Lord, your parents, your spouse?

For how much longer will you show heedlessness and forgetfulness towards the One who created you from an impure clot?

For how much longer will you be oblivious to the right of others, the injustices and the lies told?

For how much longer will your hypocrisy continue to grow and expand as far as the eye can see? The two faces you show, the promises you break and the endless red lies.

For how much longer will men continue to not act like (true) men?

Because… I cannot wait any longer.

Ismail Ibn Nazir Satia (One who is in dire need of Allah’s Forgiveness, Mercy and Pleasure)

23 Jamadul Akhar 1436

 

 

Jumu’ah: The Weekly Eid

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Praise be to Allah.

O Allah! Bestow Your special blessings and peace upon the source of divine providence, the adornment of the Day of Resurrection, the treasure of guidance, the decoration of the outfit, the groom of the kingdom, the tongue of the evidence, the intercessor of the Ummah, the leader of the presence, the prophet of mercy, our master, Muhammad (ﷺ).

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) once clarified concerning the earth’s history:

God created clay on Saturday, mountains on Sunday, trees on Monday, things entailing labour on Tuesday, and light on Wednesday. He caused animals to spread on Thursday and created Adam after Asr on Friday, the last creation at the last hour [of creation]. (Sahih Muslim, # 1300)

There is no doubt that Friday is an “Eid” or “festival” for the Muslims, as it says in the hadeeth narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “This is a day of ‘Eid that Allah has ordained for the Muslims, so whoever comes to Jumu‘ah, let him do ghusl, and if he has any perfume let him put some on, and you should use the miswak.” Narrated by Ibn Majah, 1098. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said, describing the special virtues of Friday: Thirteen: It is a day of ‘Eid that is repeated every week. Zaad al-Ma‘aad, 1/369

Thus the Muslims have three Eids: Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha, which come once every year, and Jumu‘ah which is repeated once every week. Rasulullah (ﷺ) said: “Friday is the best of days. It was on this day that  Adam alayhis salaam was created, it was on this day that he was granted entry into jannah, it was on this day that he was removed from Jannah (which became the cause for man’s existence in this universe, and which is a great blessing), and the day of resurrection will also take place on this day.” (Sahih Muslim)

In olden times, the roads and alleys used to be extremely busy in the mornings and at Fajr time. All the people used to go so early to the Jaame musjid and there used to be such a large crowd that it used to look like the days of Eid . Later, when this habit was given up, people began saying that this is the first innovation in Islam. After writing this, Imam Ghazali rahmatullahialayh says: “Aren’t the Muslims ashamed of themselves that the Jews and Christians go so early in the morning to their synagogues and churches on Saturdays and Sundays. Those who are businessmen go so early to the bazaars in order to do their buying and selling. Why don’t the Muslims do the same?” The reality of the situation is that the Muslims have totally reduced the value of this blessed day. They do not even know what day this is, and what a high status it has. How sad it is that the day which was more valuable than eid in the eyes of Muslims of the past, which Rasulullah (ﷺ) was proud of and the day which was not granted to the previous nations has become so dishonoured at the hands of Muslims today and it is such a great ingratitude to the favour of Allah Ta’ala that the consequence of all this can be seen with our very eyes.”

Many Ahadeeth have been narrated from the Prophet (ﷺ) which explain the virtues of Jumu’ah prayer. For example:

1 – Muslim (233) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “The five daily prayers, and from one Jumu’ah to the next, are an expiation for whatever sins come in between, so long as one does not commit any major sin.” 

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Whoever does ghusl then comes to Jumu’ah, and prays as much as Allah decrees for him, then listens attentively until the khutbah is over, then prays with him (the imam), will be forgiven for (his sins) between that and the next Jumu’ah and three more days.” Narrated by Muslim, 857

Imam Nawawi RH said: The scholars said that what is meant by his being forgiven between the two Jumu’ahs and three more days is that a good deed is worth ten like it, so he will be rewarded with ten Hasanahs (rewards) for each of the good deeds that he did on Friday. Some of our companions said: what is meant by what is between the two Jumu’ahs is from Jumu’ah prayer and the khutbah until the same time on the following Friday, so that it will be seven days, no more and no less, then three days are added making ten in all.

2 – Coming early to Jumu’ah brings a great reward.

Al-Bukhari (814) and Muslim (850) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever does ghusl on Friday like ghusl for janabah, then goes to the prayer (in the first hour, i.e., early), it is as if he sacrificed a camel. Whoever goes in the second hour, it is as if he sacrificed a cow; whoever goes in the third hour, it is as if he sacrificed a horned ram; whoever goes in the fourth hour, it is as if he sacrificed a hen; and whoever goes in the fifth hour it is as if he offered an egg. When the imam comes out, the angels come to listen to the khutbah.”

3 – If a person walks to Jumu’ah prayer, for every step he will have the reward of fasting and praying qiyaam for one year.

It was narrated from Aws ibn Aws al-Thaqafi that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever does ghusl on Friday and causes (his wife) to do ghusl, and sets out early, and comes close to the imam and listens and keeps quiet, for every step he takes he will have the reward of fasting and praying qiyaam for one year.”  Tirmidhi, 496; Tirmidhi, 410

Ibn al-Qayyim RH said in Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/285: “Causes (his wife) to do ghusl” means has intercourse with his wife. This is how it was interpreted by Wakee’.

Mawlana Aqil Sahib (Hafidhahullah), who has written the commentary of Abu Dawud (alDurrul Mandhood) states, in all of the books of Hadith, from all of the different virtues (fadhaail), I find the above Hadith easiest to perform and greatest in reward. 

Hafidh ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, after quoting the Ahadeeth which speak of the virtues of Jumu’ah prayer:

What we have quoted, when taken all together, indicates that the expiation of sins from one Friday to the next is subject to all the conditions mentioned above being met, namely doing ghusl, cleaning oneself, putting on perfume, wearing one’s best clothes, walking in a calm and dignified manner, not stepping over people, not pushing between two people, not offending others, praying Nawafil prayers, listening attentively and avoiding idle speech. And Allah knows best.
As Jumu’ah starts after Maghrib on Thursday night, one should take advantage of sending ‏Durood & Salawaat to Rasulullah (SAW) on this night. “On Fridays, send Durood abundantly on me, as it is presented before me.” (Abu Dawud)

Rasulullah (ﷺ) said: “Of all the days, Friday is the most virtuous. It is on this day that the trumpet will be blown. Send abundant durood upon me on Fridays because they are presented to me on that day. ” The Sahabah  radiallahu anhum asked: “O Rasulullah! How will they be presented to you when even your bones will not be present after your death?” Rasulullah (Allah bless him & give him peace) replied: “Allah Ta’ala has made the earth haraam upon the prophets forever . ” (Abu Daud)

Book of Deeds (Nasai and Tibrani) – Imam Mustaghfiri (R.A.) narrates that Rasulullah (ﷺ) said : “Whoever recites 100 times Durood on me daily, 100 of his needs will be fullfilled – 30 worldly needs and 70 pertaining to the Akhirah.”

Tabrani narrates that Rasulullah (ﷺ) said : “My Shafaa’ah ( intercession ) will be for him who recites daily ten times Durood on me during the morning and ten times during the evening.”

Umar Farooq (R.A.) said: “Duas remain suspended between the heaven and the earth. It does not proceed upward as long as Durood on Nabi has not been recited”

FULL ARTICLE ON DUROOD:

https://mylittlebreathingspace.wordpress.com/2015/01/27/the-importance-of-duroodsalawaat/

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Anyone of you attending the Friday (prayers) should take a bath.” (Bukhari)

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever recites Ha-Meem (Surah) al-Dukaan on the night before Friday will be forgiven.” 

It was narrated from Abu Umamah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever recites Ha-Meem (Surah) al-Dukhan on the night before Friday or on Friday, Allah will build for him a house in Paradise.”  al-Tabarani in al-Mu‘jam al-Kabeer (8/264).

 It was narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2889) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “He who leaves the Friday prayer (continuously) for three Friday on account of slackness, Allah will print a stamp on his heart.” (Abu Dawud).

It was narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar and Abu Hurayrah that they heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say on the minbar: “Let people stop neglecting Jumu’ah, or Allah will place a seal on their hearts, then they will be among those who are neglectful.” Narrated by Muslim, 865.

“Whoever would like to meet Allah tomorrow as a Muslim, let him regularly attend these five (daily) prayers whenever the call for them is given (that in the mosques), for Allah prescribed for His Prophet the ways of guidance, and they (the prayers) are part of those ways of guidance. I do not think that there is anyone among you who does not have a place where he prays in his house. But if you were to pray in your houses and forsake the Masjids, you would be forsaking the Sunnah of your Prophet (ﷺ), and if you were to forsake the Sunnah of your Prophet you would go astray. There is no Muslim slave who performs Wudu and does it well, then walks to the prayer, but Allah will record one Hasanah (good deed) for each step he takes, or raise’ him one level by it or erase one sin from him. I remember how we used to take short steps, and I remember (a time) when no one stayed behind from the prayer except a hypocrite whose hypocrisy was well known. And I have seen a man coming Supported by two others until he would be made to stand in the row.” (al Nisai)

On this day there is a time when a person’s Lord will answer his du’aa’ – by Allah’s leave. It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah mentioned Friday and said: “On this day there is a time when no Muslim stands and prays, asking Allah for something, but Allah will grant him it” – and he gestured with his hands to indicate how short that time is.  Bukhari, 893; Muslim, 852

“Whoever recites Surah kahf on Friday, a Noor will shine for him until the following Friday.” (Nasai, Bayhaqi, Hakim)
This means that Allah will place special light in his/her heart which will guide them towards good throughout the whole week.

Al-Mannaawi RH said: “It is recommended to read it during the day or night of Jumu’ah, as al-Shaafa’i (may Allaah have mercy on him) stated.” (Fayd al-Qadeer, 6/198)

“Whoever recites the opening ten verses of Surah kahf will be protected from the fitnah of Dajjal” (Muslim)

Another Hadith says: “If Dajjal appears before you, recite the last ten verses of Surah kahf, because they will protect you from his fitnah”.

If anyone learns by heart the first ten verses of the Surah al-Kahf, he will be protected from the Dajjal.(Saheeh Muslim)

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Whoever recites three Ayat from the beginning of Al-Kahf he is protected from the turmoil of the Dajjal.” (Tirmidhi).

“If anyone memorizes ten verses from the beginning of Surat al-Kahf, he will be protected from the trial of Dajjal (Antichrist).” Abu Dawud RH said: In this way Hashim al-dastawa’I RH transmitted it from Qatadah RH, but he said: “If anyone memorizes the closing verses of surat al-Kahf.” Shu’bah RH narrated from Qatadah RH the words “from the end of al-Kahf. (Abu Dawud)

Acts to be done:
1: To have Ghusl (Sunnah bath).
2: To use miswaak.
3: To wear clean clothes (preferably white ).
4: To apply Ittar.
5: To proceed early to the masjid.

The earlier a person goes, the more reward he will receive. Rasulullah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “On the day of jumu’ah, the angels stand at the entrance of that musjid in which jumu’ah salaat is to be offered. They write down the name of the person who enters the musjid first, and thereafter the name of the person who follows, and they continue doing this . The person who entered first will receive the reward of sacrificing a camel in the path of Allah, the one who followed him will get the reward of sacrificing a cow, thereafter a chicken, thereafter the reward of giving an egg as charity in the path of Allah. Once the khutbah commences, the angels close the register and begin listening to the khutbah.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

6: To walk to the masjid.
7: To sit near the Imam.
8: Not to walk over the shoulder of people to get to the front.
9: not to indulge in vanities during khutbah.
10: To listen to the khutbah attentively.
11: To recite Durood Shareef abundantly.
12: To recite Surah kahf.
13: To perform Salatul Tasbeeh.
14: To make excessive du’as especially between Asr And Maghrib.

Rasulullah (ﷺ) said: “Friday is the “mother” of all days and the most virtuous in the sight of Allah Ta’ala. In the sight of Allah Ta’ala, it has more greatness than Eid ul-Fitr and Eid al-Adha. ” (Ibn Majah)

Rasulullah (ﷺ) said: “The Muslim who passes away on the night or during the day of Friday, Allah Ta’ala saves him from the punishment of the grave .” (Tirmidhi)

Ismail Ibn Nazir Satia (One in dire need of Allah’s Forgiveness, Mercy and Pleasure).

1 Jamadul Akhar 1437

حضرت شیخ مولانا سليم الله خان زید مجدہ

Rashida Leicester 20170831_231707.jpgحضرت شیخ مولانا سليم الله خان زید مجدہ کي آج بروز جمعرات کے سبق میں طلبائے کرام کو اھم
نصیحت.
(یہ کتاب جو آپکی ختم ہورہی ہے آپ سے صرف ایک بات کہنی ہےاور وہ بات یہ ہے کہ تعلیم کے اس زمانے کے اختتام کے بعد  آپ پر بڑی ذمہ داری عائد ہوجاتی ہے اور اس ذمہ داری کایہ تقاضہ ہوتا ہے.اس ذمہ داری کی وجہ سے آپ پر یہ لازم اور ضروری ہوتا ہے کہ آپ صراط مستقیم پر چلیں.اور صراط مستقیم پر چلنے کے لئے اپنی تمام کوشش اپنی تمام مساعی اسکے لئے استعمال کریں.
اور صراط مستقیم کے لئے سوائے اسکے کوئی راستہ نھیں سوائے اسکے کوئی طریقہ نھیں ہے.کہ حضرات علمائے دیوبند جنکی نسبت پر ہم فخر کیا کرتے ہیں جنکے ساتھ تعلق پر ہمیں خوشی محسوس ہوتی ہے.انھی کے مشرب کو انھی کے مسلک کو انھی کے طریقے کو ہم نھایت مضبوطی کے ساتھ پکڑتے ہیں.
آپکے سامنے بھت چیزیں آئینگی نئی نئی چیزیں آئینگی.
آپکومتاثر کرنے والے لوگ بھت ملینگے لیکن وہ سب دھوکہ ہوگا وہ سب فراڈ ہوگا.آپ ناتجربہ کار ہیں.کوئی تجربہ آپکے پاس موجود نھیں ہے.آپ نے مدارس میں رہ کر تحصیل علم میں اپنا وقت صرف کیا ہے لیکن تجربہ کرنے کے لئے آپ کو موقع نھیں ملا.
اب آگے آپ نکلینگے میدان میں اترینگے جیسا کہ ہم نے عرض کیا کہ بھت بھت چیزیں آپکے سامنے آئینگی بھت نمونے آپ کے سامنے آئینگے بھت چیزیں آپ کو اپنی طرف کھینچینگی اور کئی لوگ آپ کا شکار کرنے کی کوشش کرینگے.یہ ھوگا یہ ھوگا اس سے مفر نھیں ہے.اگر آپ چاھتے ہیں کہ آپ اللہ اور رسول کی مرضی حاصل کریں اگر آپ چاہتے ہیں کہ صراط مستقیم پر آپ چلیں تو میں نے عرض کیا کہ اسکا ایک ہی طریقہ ہے صرف ایک.اور وہ کیا ہے.وہ یہ ہے کہ حضرات علمائے دیوبند جنکو ہم مولانا رشید احمد گنگوھی،مولانا قاسم نانوتوی،مولانا اشرف علی تھانوی،حضرت اقدس مولانا حسین احمد مدنی،مولانا شیخ الحدیث محمد زکریا کاندھلوی یہ نام میں نے آپ کے سامنے لئے ہیں.
ان کے طرز کے علاوہ اگر کوئی آپ کو کسی اور راستے کی طرف راہنمائی کرتا ہے وہ آپ کو ناکام بنانے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں.
آج بھت فتنے ہم پر مسلط ہیں.تجدد کا فتنہ ہے.کئی لوگ آپکو ملینگے دیوبند کی طرف نسبت کرینگے لیکن دیوبند کے مسلک کی جڑیں کاٹنے میں ہمہ وقت مستعد ہونگے.اور تم نھیں پہچانوگے آپ فرق نھیں کرسکیں گے.
اس لئے میں کہتا ہوں کہ سب کو چھوڑو لات مارو فقط جن بزرگوں کا میں نے نام لیا ہے انکے طریقہ پر آپ چلو تو آپ کامیاب ہیں ورنہ آپ نے ب تک جتنا وقت گزارا ہے سب برباد کردیا)

یہ آڈیو کلپ سے سن کر تحریر کیا گیا ہے.
ایڈمن

He Who Has No-One Has Allah!

Do you talk to yourself?

self-reflection
‘Abdullahi Ibn ‘Abdan RH said:

حدثنا عبد الله أن رجلاً كان يتّبع سفيان الثوري فيجده أبداً يُخرج من لبنة – أي: طوب – رقعة ينظر فيها، فأحب أن يعلم ما فيها، فوقعت الرقعة في يده فإذا مكتوب فيها: سفيان ! اذكر وقوفك بين يدي الله عز وجل

“Abdullah told us that there was a man who used to follow Sufyan Ath-Thawri RH. He noticed that time and time again, Sufyan would take out a piece of paper from a small box which he had and gaze into it. This man became curious as per what was on the paper. It so happened that this paper fell into his hand and on it was written:

“Sufyan! Remember that you shall stand before Allah.”

What you just read was in fact common practice of our predecessors.

Many Muslims validate their lack of Islamic commitment by arguing that ‘my environment is full of haram’ or ‘no one is advising me’ This category of people won’t snap out of their sins till a third party comes along and advises them. The earlier generations didn’t wait for other people’s advice, but they would actively speak to themselves.

The companion, Anas Ibn Malik RA says:

سمعت عمر بن الخطاب يومًا، وخرجت معه، حتى دخل حائطًا، فسمعته يقول، وبيني وبينه حائط، وهو في جوف الحائط: “عمر بن الخطاب.. أمير المؤمنين.. بخ بخ، والله لتتقين الله يا ابن الخطاب، أو ليعذبنك!”

“I was once walking with ‘Umar Ibn Khattab till a walk separated us. I heard him saying to himself from the other side of the wall, “Umar Ibn Khattab?! Leader of the believers?! Well, you will either fear Allah, O ‘Umar or He will punish you!!”

It may be something which you hang up in front of your desk, or it may be Islamic lectures which you keep your ears plugged in with on the way to and back from work/school, or righteous friends whom you regularly ask for advice or it may even be a piece of paper which you keep with you, similar to Sufyan Ath-Thawri’s RH piece of paper.

Also, in recent times Muhammad Ali – the famous boxer used to say, “I don’t smoke but I keep a match box in my pocket. When my heart slips towards a sin, I burn a matchstick and heat my palm. Then I say to myself:‘Ali You can’t bear even this heat, how would you bear the unbearable heat of Hell?

 

Allah grant us his awareness and consciousness. Ameen Ya Rabb!

Anonymous.

Effects of TV Violence on Children

By Fatima Hachem El Hamoui, March 4, 2015

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Purpose

The purpose of this post is to attract the parents’ attention to the effects of TV violence on children and to spread knowledge among them in order to help lessen the problems that children might have as a consequence of seeing such violence.

Introduction

It’s obvious that parents are always concerned with the well-being of their children and try their best to provide them with the utmost suitable environment for their growth and development. That’s what parents are responsible for in front of Allah (swt), because they’ll be asked about their upbringing, nurturing, and education. Nonetheless, parents frequently lose control over their children’s safe atmosphere, specially in the presence of all this technology nowadays.

Threats are Everywhere

With all the threats that surround us today, children are the most vulnerable. That’s due to the fact that they still don’t have the mental abilities to analyze the data and input that their brain receives whenever they encounter new things. For this reason, parents are there to help them figure stuff out and guide them to what’s right. However, if parent’s aren’t careful enough, they might be causing their children to unsafely get exposed to inevitable threats they are better off without.

Children have Sensitive Personalities

Like we’re saying, children are known for their unstable personality; they are affected by everything that happens around them. And in the light of all that’s happening around the world, almost everyone is trying to keep up to date with the world’s news, that includes parents who have children. One of the things these parents are not aware of when they are watching news programs, is that their children are likely to be around watching as well. On the other hand, some parents are also interested in watching action and horror movies, and their inattention may end up letting the children watch these kinds of movies with or without them. These programs, whether the news or inappropriate movies, might show content that children are not supposed to see but, if they do, will affect them either by arousing their curiosity to imitate anything they observe, or by making them frightened by what they see.

Imitation

Imitation is one of the characteristics of childhood. Children tend to imitate everyone and everything new they see, even if it is wrong. That is why we see girls imitating their mothers by pretending to cook or by wearing their high heels, and boys imitating their fathers as well. So, when children sit next to their parents while they are watching TV, their attention will obviously be grabbed by certain scenes that show violence, and knowing that children have to examine everything before they become familiar with it, they might decide to try the violence scene without realizing what the consequences could be. For example, when the news programs present certain crimes or murders that happened, the child might copy what he sees, he might hurt himself or anyone else. Therefore, most of the time, such imitations lead to drastic results, because the child is unable to differentiate between what’s right or wrong, what is harmful or not, and what is good or evil.

Frightening Content

Moreover, children might get very scared and terrified when they see this violence. For instance, when a child watches how wars are happening and how planes and cannons are destroying many homes and  killing many people, he will be horrified by what he sees, and eventually these things will be printed in his mind and will be part of his personality later on. In addition, many children cannot sleep and have nightmares when they observe violence and scary stuff. Hence, they will give their parents a hard time at night. Also, children have a wide imagination that will make them, apparently, see things in the dark because of the stored violent images, like imagining that someone is coming to kill them or that a thief is robbing the house. As a result the child might turn out to be a coward, have a weak personality, and maybe have some mental problems.

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Childhood is Delicate, Be Alert

We should admit that childhood is a very delicate stage of life, that is why a child’s life should be full of happy, fun and enjoyable things, and clear of everything that is violent and scary. So, to every parent who cares about his children’s life and personality: keep your kids away from news programs and unsuitable movies, and make sure that they enjoy every part of this stage because it is the foundation of everyone’s life.

Don’t Forget About Adolescence

Just as childhood is very important, adolescence is likewise critical and care-demanding. That’s why you shouldn’t leave adolescents grow in cyberspace, as it poses similar threats on them like any other technology these days. You should also encourage them to improve their academic achievements by acquiring the good habit of taking notes. This could boost their academic performances for sure and they would be actively learning instead of just passively depending on the internet to get their homework done. It’s also very effective to try to help them stay motivated even when they don’t feel like it because it will have a positive impact on their everyday attitude.

Your Responsibility as a Parent

As parents, you have a great deal of responsibilities toward your children. You owe it to your children to keep them protected and comfortable. Allah (swt) says in Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 6:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ

O, Believers Save yourselves and your dependents from the fire whose fuel are humans and the stones.

So, when a child of yours starts to adopt a certain way of life, it’ll either be a virtuous alteration that will change him into a good human being or a wicked alteration that will change him into a degraded individual. And whatever he turns into is fairly reliant on the upbringing he receives from you. The obligation you have in raising your children is highly essential. That’s why the greatest favor you could do for your children is show them how to be good, well-mannered, faithful, friendly, righteous, generous, just, wise, hard-working muslims, and demonstrate to them that their reference in life is the Qur’an and Sunnah because it’ll teach them everything they need to know in order to live a peaceful and honorable life.

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In Your Remembrance

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In your remembrance, I find peace and tranquility,

With Your worship, I find honour and dignity.

You only bless your remembrance to those whom you love,

Then You remember them simultaneously, from high above.

Despite my heart being full of sin and vice,

Your mercy is so vast, your compassion is deep and has no price.

Purify my heart, with your love and forgiveness,

My heart is weak, without you love it is restless.

Grant me your friendship, nearness and closeness,

Keep me away from your displeasure and disobedience.

O Allah! My sins have made me distant and weak,

My sins are heavy, burdensome and I know I’ve reached my peak.

So, I beg you earnestly, humbly, wrap me under your cloak,

Of mercy & love, wipe away my sins just like chalk.

If You reject me, where will I turn?

Who will accept me? When it is for You I yearn.

DUA: Save me (and the Ummah) from the ghastly Hell-fire, where the disobedient will burn,

Those who rejected you, will stay there forever and they will never return. Ameen.

Ismail Ibn Nazir Satia (One who is in dire need of Allah’s Forgiveness, Mercy and Pleasure).

29 Ramadhan 1436 (I’tikaf – Islamic Da’wah Academy)

Ulama-e-Haqq and Ulama-e-Soo

.كان يحيى بن معاذ ينشد في مجالسه

مواعظ الواعظ لن تقبلا…. حتى يعيها قلبه أولا

يا قوم من أظلم من واعظ ….قد خالف ما قاله في الملا

أظهر بين الناس إحسانه ….و بارز الرحمن لما خلا

Ulama-e-Haqq and Ulama-e-Soo

By Hadhrat Shaykh-ul-Hadlth Mawlana Muhammad Zakariyya (Rahmatullah Alayh)

I have to admit that there are two kinds of Ulama-the true ones (Ulama-e-Haqq) and the false or evil ones (Ulamaa-e-Soo) In the Hadeeth there are grave warnings of dreadful things awaiting the Ulama-e-Soo. They are among those who will be first to enter into Jahannam. They are astray and are lading others astray. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“A person who seeks knowledge with the object of acquiring wordly riches, will not even smell the fragrance of Jannat” [Targheeb]

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) also said:

“Whoever acquired knowledge for the purpose of attacting people to be inclined towards him, will be cast into Jahannam” [Targheeb]

and also “The worst of people have the worst Ulama” [Targheeb]

It is also reported that Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said::

“Knowledge is of two kinds: One type is that which is only on the tongue(having no effect upon the heart). This is Allah’s proof against men(that He completed His argument). The other type is that which is in the heart and is beneficial knowledge.”

In another Hadeeth he (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“In the latter days the devout ones (Sufis) will be ignorant and the Ulama immoral”

and also

“Seek not knowledge in order to contest with the Ulama and to argue with the ignorant ones and to attract people towards you by it. Those who do this will be cast into Jahannam”.

Sayyidina Umar (Radiallahu anhu) said:

“On behalf of this Ummat I am most fearful of the Aalim who is a hypocrite”

people asked: “Who is a hypocritical Aalim?”

Hadhrat Umar(Radiallahu anhu) replied:

“He is one who by tongue is an Aalim but in his heart he is ignorant.”

Sayyidina Hasan(Radiallahu anhu) said

“Do not become such that in spite of having acquired the knowledge of the Ulama and become acquainted with the deep researches of the thinkers, you behave and act in the manner of ignorant fools.”

Hadhrat Ebrahim bin Ummaya was asked:

“Which person will be most ashamed and sorry?”

He replied:

“The ashamed one in this world is he who obliges an ungrateful one. And the ashamed one and sorry one at the time of death is that Aalim who exceeded the limits”

Sayyadina Hasan (Radiallahu anhu) also said:

“The torment of the Ulama will be the death of the heart. The death of the heart is seen in this that with which the deeds of the Hereafter he earns the benefits of this world”

Hadhrat Yahya bin Ma’az (Radiallahu anhu) says:

“When with knowledge and wisdom worldly benefits are earned, that knowledge loses its splendor and brilliance.”

Sayyidina Umar (Radiallahu anhu) observed:

“When you see any Aalim who loves worldly riches, consider him to be a suspect (and guard your Deen) for whosoever loves a thing becomes entangled with it ”

Hadhrat Malik bin Dinar (Radiallahu anhu) said:

“I have read in ancient books that Allah says. “When an Aalim begins to love this world, the least that I can do to him is that from his heart I take away the pleasure of his conversing with Me in prayer.” [Ihya]

All these statements quoted above and many other similar quotations undoubtedly refer to the Ulama-e-Soo —the evil ones among the Ulama. However the verdict of whether such-and-such an Aalim or party- belongs to this category or of the true Ulama is not for anyone to give. This also lies under the Shariat to be decided according to its stipulations. It is completely wrong that when any Aalim speaks in favour of our views, we consider and laud him as being of the true Ulama. But when he says anything against our opinions, he is immediately branded as being of the Ulama-e-Soo, ready to be sacrificed What is this that until yesterday our opinions about some political party were favourable? Hence this Aalim and all those who were in favour of this party’s political policy were lauded as Ulama-e-Haqq. But now our views regarding that party had changed overnight And now all the Ulamn who supported that party have their names added to the list of Ulama-e-Soo!

The criterion as to whether any Aalim is of the true or evil Ulama is only this:

How does he respond in action to the tenets of the Holy Qur’aan and Hadeeth? That is all. But so have we changed that with our own crooked understanding, our emotions and under the influence of the unbelievers we set up some policy Whosoever agreed with it of the Ulama is lauded to be a great Allamah, a great scholar. well-versed and acquainted with the needs of the nation, an expert on the intricacies and mysteries of the Deen — even if this self-same lauded one is ignorant and an uneducated fool, having no touch with Qur’aan and Hadeeth. On the other hand the truly great Ulama who oppose our opinion, in spite of being really experts in matters of Shariat and truly well-acquainted with the needs of the nation, will be ridiculed, jeered and abused with the meanest and vilest of words. What a tragedy!

Note that in many respects there were major differences of opinion between the Sufis — with their esoteric knowledge, clairvoyance and their internal sciences — and the external Ulama, the formalists. But the pious ancestors did not even give the Sufis the right to adopt any such views which were contrary to the formalist Ulama. The books of the experts abound with sayings to this effect.

Hadhrat Mujaddid Alfi-Thani (Sayed Ahmed Sirhindi) (Rahmatullah alayh) wrote in one of his letters which was written to Montana Amanullah Faqeeh:

“The foremost belief that is necessary for any wayfarer of the Sufi path, is that which the Ulama of the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamaot have elicited and deduced from the Qur ‘aan and the Hadeeth and the relics of the predecessors Then it is also necessary lo adhere to those meanings of the Qur aan and the Hadeeth which the Ulama have understood from the Book and Ihe Sunnat If by any chance, any meaning should become known through illumination (Kashf) or inspiration (ilhaam) which is to ihe contrary, it is not acceptable or credible or to be taken seriously One should seek refuge from such meanings and beseech Allah to take us out of this vortex and that He may manifest that which is in accordance with the opinion of the true Ulamaa.’

One should not express anything contrary to their opinion, but rather try to make that which was unveiled lo him consonant with those meanings which the learned Ulama had understood Any meaning that becomes disclosed to the inner heart and which is contrary to the meanings understood by them is not at all reliable or acceptable and absolutely null and void. It is a fact that every perverted one wished to prove the correctness of his views from the Qur’aan and Hadeeth alone.

“He misleads many thereby and guides many thereby. ” [II v 26)

And this fact, that the meanings understood by these learned men alone is correct, is because they have understood these meanings from the sayings of the Sahaabah and the Tahi’een, (May Allah he pleased with them all). They have derived them from [lie Light of the Stars of Guidance. Hence, eternal salvation and everlasting well-being is their lot and their destiny.

“Lo, they are Allah’s party. Verily Allah’s party is successful ones.” [LV III v 22]

Just because of some Ulama, in spite of being of sound belief, show some faults in masaa-il and are guilty of some sinful lapses in their deeds, it is absolute injustice to degrade them and turn them away from the entire class of Ulama, or to ridicule all of them. In fact to reject them means rejection of the most of the essentials of Deen, because these people are the ones who show the way of the essentials of Deen and they are the ones who discriminate between right and wrong.

“But for the light emanating from them we would not have been guided aright, and but for their discriminating between right and wrong we would have gone astray. They are the people who spent their efforts in elevating the firm Deen and guide many to the straight path. Whosoever follows them will be successful and reach salvation and whosoever opposed them is astray, leading others astray”.