#1 Showing respect – Every individual deserves respect – ESPECIALLY your spouse.
#2 Be affectionate – Love makes people feel valued, so show your spouse you love them and don’t be shy. Hold hands, kiss your spouse goodbye and hold on a little longer when you hug
#3 Always communicate – Your spouse is not a mind reader! Tell your spouse what you need and clearly communicate this to them
#4 Forgive quickly – No one is perfect and a good marriage thrives on forgiving and letting go
#5 Show kindness – A happy marriage takes two people who are kind to one another – always
#6 Appreciate your spouse – There is nothing worse than being taken for granted. A simple thank you is all it takes
#7 Loyalty – You should only ever have eyes for your spouse as if they are the most important person in your whole world
#8 Balance your time – A good marriage has balance between work, friends, family and each other as well as time for yourself
#9 Be honest – The fastest way for your spouse to lose trust in you is when you hide or lie about major things in your home. It simply isn’t worth it
#10 Consult in decision-making – It is from the sunnah to consult with one another in all big decisions – and doing so increases your love and respect for one another
20 Jamadul Awwal 1437
1. I intend to enter into this marriage and take this wife (or husband) for the love of Allah ‘Azza-wa-Jall ’
2. To have children so that the human race shall continue.
3. I also intend [to enter this marriage] for the love of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, so that he may take pride in it, as he said: “Marry and increase in numbers, as I will take pride in you before other nations on the Day of Judgement.”
4. I have intended in this marriage—and all the actions and words that come from it—to be blessed by the prayer of a pious child; or for his intercession if he dies young before me.
5. I have intended by this marriage to protect myself from Satan, by breaking the desire, [and thus] breaking the temptations of Satan, to lower the gaze, and reduce the Wiswas (withdrawing whisperer).
6. I have also intended to protect my private parts from lewdness (illegal intercourse).
7. I have intended in this marriage the amusement of the self and to bring joy to it through by companionship (with my spouse); looking, and playing freely and to bring comfort to the heart and strengthening it for worship.
8. I have intended in this marriage the relief of the nafs and cherish it through companionship, the pleasure that comes through gazing at one’s spouse, mutual foreplay, the repose that floods the heart and strengthening it for worshipping.
9. I have intended by it, the relieving of the heart from the worries of housekeeping, cooking, sweeping, making the bed, cleaning the dishes and taking care of lively duties.
10. I have intended by this marriage, to struggle with the nafs and to train it ‘through care and guardianship’, to fulfill the rights of the family and to be patient with their characters, to endure the harm that comes from them, to work towards making them good, to guide them to the religious path, to struggle to seek lawful earnings for them, to command them to discipline the children by also asking from Allah for it and success for his sake and to drop between his hands and to show the excessive need towards Him in gaining it. I have intended all the previous for Allah Almighty.
11. I have intended all the previous and more from whatever I control, say and do in this marriage for Allah Almighty.
12. I have intended in this marriage whatever Your righteous servants and Your acting scholars have intended.
Allahumma, give us success as you have given them, help us as you have helped them. Overlook our shortcomings, accept [this] from us and do not entrust us to ourselves, even for the blink of an eye. Make good for us, all of the previous, by Your Grace and Generosity in good and in good health.
Allahumma, forgive us and have mercy upon us, be content with us and accept from us. Enter us into paradise and save us from the hell fire and make good all of our affairs. Allahumma, grant me in everything—in this marriage and all of my affairs—Your Help, Blessing and Peace. Protect me from preoccupying myself with other than You and do not put obstacles between me and Your obedience and make this marriage sufficient and virtuous for me. Allahumma, I—my moments of movement and stillness—am entrusted to You, so protect me; wherever I happen to be, take my affairs as You have taken the affairs of Your pious servants.
Remember me in your duas,
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